Who is, and who isn't? Who cares?

Regarding the previous post. I receive a letter today from a gay man who is quite happy with the term queer and tried to promote all its dubious virtues to me. Among them, he wrote, "Plus it's not like the term hasn't been used positively both in academia (queer studios, queer history) and even in mainstream culture (Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.) This positive use in mainstream culture was a popular TV show that strong reinforced the stereotype that all homosexual men have a greater sense of style, fashion, personal grooming, interior design and culture. With that kind of publicity gay men would never be accepted as equal to straight men with the only difference being sexual preference. Plus it's all a lie. There are gay plumbers, lawyers, mechanics, shop foreman, men in every profession and trade. They're are gay slobs, gay thieves, gay cowards, gay heroes, gay athletes,  in fact every kind of man you will find in the straight world. So, no, most gay men are not muscular fashion plates, living in divinely decorated apartments where they flounce around in designer aprons creating gourmet meals. Like so much else those gays are the creation of the lazy, media.  Most gay men are men, after all, ordinary men leading ordinary lives. And I say they don't deserve such an ugly and offensive stereotyping label as queer.