As a fan of true crime books, I am amazed at the number of women who are beaten or murdered by present or ex husbands or boyfriends. Amazed because these violent men (and often women) usually give so many warning signals to their violent natures. It's a shame that an abused party doesn't walk out after one punch, much less a beating. But I am sure there are lots of reasons they don't: low self esteem, the mistaken belief that she can change him, pity that his father was such a bastard, or the mistaken belief that, "He's trying to change he really is." It would be best to not get involved with these damaged people in the first place. They're not that hard to avoid. Sociopaths are very considerate. They send all kinds of early clues: animal abuse, short tempers, bullying, narcissism, excessive jealousy and, of course, controlling personalities. As soon as someone gives you the third degree about where you were when he called you 65 times, take off. Today I saw a young man on the bus with a 24-point tattoo on his forearm that read, Without Mercy. I am sure some girl will think he's a cool rebel until she finds out what "Without Mercy" means. I think someone with such a tattoo should be avoided as a social pariah until he proves it's a meaningless phrase chosen during a moment of youthful stupidity, which I doubt. They're out there. Pay attention.
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